Ask B: Under the weather

Dear B, 

I’m supposed to go on a trip to the beach with my new boyfriend this weekend, however I’m sick. I just started antibiotics, so I’m optimistic I’ll be recovered soon. I don’t want to ruin our plans or disappoint my boyfriend (I told him I have allergies, he doesn’t know I’m sick), however is it ok to still go on the trip and not mention the cold?

Sickly Samantha

My precious patient,

I’m so sorry to hear you are under the weather and hope you feel better soon! This is a tough predicament, as I”m sure you’ve been looking forward to a romantic vacay, however my darling, it’s also not very considerate to expose your beau to an illness without him even knowing. Additionally, you’re running the risk of him catching the cold (achoo!) and being sick on the trip, and that would be such a shame for both of you. Honesty is the best policy, so I advise that you tell him about the cold ASAP, and that you would love to still go on the trip, however also understand if he would prefer to reschedule until you’re back to your healthy self. Essentially, let him decide instead of deciding for him and hiding a pharmacy and endless tissues in your beach bag. Think of it this way – etiquette  revolves around being thoughtful and making others feel comfortable, so by being upfront, you’re showing consideration for his well being and health, and he will be so appreciative of that.

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