I am a people pleaser, and have reached the point where I hardly ever say no to anyone. I am feeling so stressed! I don’t want to disappoint my friends, family, and colleagues, however, I’m realizing I need to learn to politely say no sometimes. Any advice?
This issue is all too familiar for so many of us! Between fabulous jobs, thrilling social lives, and a constant need to please, we are often left feeling stretched too thin, and perhaps on the verge of dare I say a nervous breakdown (no one wants one of those!). If you find yourself saying “yes, yes, yes” and are desperately wishing to shout “no, no, no!”, how do you politely offer a decline without burning a bridge? The name of the game is graciousness, honesty, and firmness. Say for instance you’re asked to chair an event next spring that requires a substantial time commitment and while it sounds spectacular, you don’t have a minute in your schedule to spare. Simply say, “Thank you for thinking of me for this opportunity, I’m so honored! While I would love to chair ABC event, unfortunately I can’t this year, as my schedule is packed and I wouldn’t be able to give it my all. I can recommend some other people for the position though, and will definitely purchase a ticket to the event in May!”Just remember, it’s OK to say no sometimes, and when you do, strive to be kind and honest in your delivery. Good luck!