Social Etiquette: How to Apologize

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It’s inevitable, at one time or another we all make mistakes – we say something we wish we hadn’t, accidentally forget a friend’s birthday, disappoint someone dear to our hearts, and the list goes on. While few will admit to a enjoying a delicious plate of crow, it’s important to take accountability and apologize when we are in the wrong or have hurt someone’s feelings. Remember, no one is perfect! Think of it this way – can you recall a time when you truly felt someone owed you a sincere sorry? Or perhaps were you the one who needed to swallow your pride and apologize? Either way, here are my tips for how to genuinely mend fences. Cheers to a great week!

Quick Tips

Apology Do's and Don'ts

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Do apologize ASAP, however apologies are better late than never!

Don’t apologize and then say “but” as this negates the entire apology

Do talk through the situation with the person so both parties can share their feelings

Don’t dwell on the mistake once you’ve apologized. Say your peace, hopefully find forgiveness, and move on!

Do promptly replace any items that you have broken or lost in addition to apologizing

Don’t ignore the mess-up and forgo apologizing. Instead have a slice of humble pie and say I’m sorry!

Do be sincere, kind, and thoughtful and consider bringing a peace-offering depending upon how big of an “oops” you’re fixing – think flowers, a box of homemade muffins, etc.

 

Adding a touch of spring to your table

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It’s hard to believe Easter is next weekend! This year will be our baby boy’s first Easter, so I’m pulling out all the stops to make it a sensational one! I’ve had endless fun creating his basket (exquisitely monogrammed of course!), and we are going to visit the bunny himself next week. We’re also hosting my family, and so I have been prepping the guest room with fresh linens and special soaps (welcome to Chateau Underwood!) and planning my tablescape. While admiring our wedding china today, I began to think of ways to add a new dimension to our dishes without buying an entirely new set. The answer? I find a fun way to weave in a burst of color and seasonal charm to a tablescape is through beautiful linens or decorative plates – think salad plates, chargers, and dessert plates. The beauty of this dear readers, is that you can still use your classic everyday china or fine china (any excuse to use the fine china!) and simply mix in these little whimsical gems. Here are a some lovely plates – my favorite being the Juliska – to delight and excite as you design your springtime table. Enjoy!

A Walk Back In Time

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Happy first day of spring dear readers! While perusing Tory Daily recently, I came across the most wonderful post about Vogue’s Book of Etiquette and Good Manners and was of course elated! My two favorite things, Vogue and etiquette – does it get much better than that? As you know, my passion for polite protocol runs deep and finding a vintage book like this warms my heart. Published in 1969, this classic read promises a walk back in time, and features a charming mix of somewhat dated etiquette tips, as well as those that remain true today. As the ever elegant Tory Burch pens, “The book is a veritable time capsule, taking you back to an era when The Archies’ Sugar, Sugar topped the charts and ship launches were actual social events.” While some aspects of etiquette will go out of style and evolve with society (Instagram anyone?), I truly believe others – table manners, thank you notes, common courtesies – will always be in fashion and favor, and love that this book is still being talked about today. Cheers to the weekend and all shining as our best selves!