Do I Need to Send a Gift?


Dear B,

I was invited to a friend’s baby shower, however am unable to attend. Do I still need to send a gift even thought I can’t make it?



Dear H,

This is a great question, and I actually found myself in this situation recently (I’ve been on both sides of this scenario), so I can relate! On the one hand, I’ve been invited to showers before and had to decline, yet I still sent a gift; on the other hand, I invited friends to my recent shower and of those who declined, some sent gifts and some didn’t. So to answer your question, yes, in my opinion, the gracious and thoughtful thing to do is to send a gift. Think of it this way – the point of a shower is to “shower” the mother-to-be and her bundle of joy with gifts, and so it’s still appropriate to do so, even if you can’t attend. Having a baby is such a special time and one to be celebrated, and I know your friend will be beyond thrilled that you were so kind as to send a present for her little one!

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