Top 10 Etiquette Goals for 2018

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Now that we’re nearly a month in to the new year, I wanted to share my top 10 etiquette goals for 2018. As cliché as it may sound, the new year is a perfect time to hit the re-set button, and really focus on how to be the best version of yourself. While many new year’s resolutions often fall to the wayside by spring break, and by summer are a distant memory, consider making 2018 different. Consider goals that have meaning in your life, as well as ones that you want to work towards. I encourage you to find a quiet place to sit, and with pen and paper in hand, try jotting down a few goals. There is something about writing down your goals – in case you haven’t noticed, I’m a big fan of hand writing everything 🙂 – that makes them feel concrete, and will make you feel accountable.

And so, here are the top 10 etiquette goals for 2018, and I hope these offer you some inspiration!

 

Be Present: Calls, emails, texts, social media – they can all wait. Put your phone away when you’re with family and friends, and enjoy the moment. Be present!

Write Thank You Notes: There might be are a million reasons why you don’t have time to write a thank you note – life is busy! –  however I think we can all find five minutes to show a little gratitude. I promise it will mean the world to the recipient.

Practice Good Table Manners: It’s always a good idea to brush up on table manners, and table settings. That way you’re prepared and confident the next time you dine out with family and friends or entertain.

RSVP ASAP: Try to RSVP the day you receive the invitation. The hostess will really appreciate your quick response, and you can instantly check it off your to-do list. Done and done!

Golden Rule: Treat people the way you want to be treated, be it opening a door for someone when grabbing coffee, or giving a compliment to a friend. Small acts of kindness go a long way!

Trash the Trash Talk: Talking poorly about other people creates negative energy and what does it really accomplish? Nada! Your mama said it and I’ll say it again, if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

Listen and Question: Did you know a great way to get to know someone or strengthen your current relationships is to  listen? Listen, listen listen, because true wisdom is listening more than you talk. (I need to practice this!)

Dress for Success: Treat yourself to a couple new outfits. New clothes will make you feel confident and proud of the way you look, and that confidence will shine through. And chic new clothes don’t have to be expensive, buy within your budget!

Be Punctual: Punctuality is a sign of respect, so aim to be on time. Life happens and if you are running late, out of courtesy, call or text the person you’re meeting to let them know you’ll be tardy.

Give a Gift: Be it a hostess gift, thoughtful birthday gift, or gift for no reason, treat loved ones to something special. It will make their day!

Ask B: Dinner Party Dilemma

Dear B, 

Whenever we host family or friends for dinner and they offer to bring something, I never know if I should take them up on it. On one hand, I’m the hostess so do I need to take care of everything? However on the other hand, they did offer, so is it polite to let them bring dessert, wine, etc.?

Sincerely, 

Ms. Hostess 


Ms. Hostess,

Great question, and one we can all identify with! This is entirely up to you. If a guest offers to bring dessert, however you have a certain menu you’re planning – say a French inspired night – and you’ve looked forward to making a Parisian apple tart for weeks – than kindly thank your guest, and let them know they only need to bring themselves. However if they offer to bring dessert and seem as though they’d love to contribute to the evening, and you would love some extra help, take them up on it! It will be one less thing for you to do (it’s a busy job being a hostess!), and a fabulous way to make your guest feel special and included. Happy hostessing!

How to Wash Your Makeup Brushes

 

For the past few weeks, every night when I’ve washed my face at bedtime, I’ve glanced over at my makeup brushes and made a mental footnote to wash them. Oh and treat myself to a new makeup bag. Except (cringe), I still haven’t washed them nor have I purchased a new bag. Life is busy with two little ones and often small tasks – like washing makeup brushes – seem to fall to the wayside. Good intentions always remain, and yet I can’t seem to remember to give those beautiful brushes the bath they deserve. We shower and wash our faces, so why do we procrastinate cleaning the tools that help to enhance our natural beauty?

As I applied my evening skin care routine last night, it occurred to me that, gasp, unclean brushes could be filled with bacteria and contribute to pesky breakouts. Despite dustings of pink blush, creamy foundation and graphite colored eyeshadow, the brushes look clean and still do their jobs, and yet I know what is lurking under those bristles. I’m a bit of a germaphobe and so this concept alone served as motivation to change my ways!

I did a bit of research, and learned that (no surprise!) brushes collect leftover makeup, bacteria, dead skin, oil and dust and if they haven’t been washed, you are applying this right back on to your face – yuck! Also, great quality brushes can be pricey, and so by regularly washing them you can extend the life of the brush. And so, I set out to get smart on the ins and outs of washing make up brushes and of course share my findings with you. Enjoy and cheers to the week ahead!

 

WHEN TO WASH

Ideally, wash your brushes once a week, to help remove build-up, and think of it as another step to your beauty ritual. Sunday is a nice day to give your brushes a good cleansing, as it will ensure everything is fresh for the week ahead. Not to mention it’s so easy peasy and takes a matter of minutes!

 

WHAT YOU NEED TO WASH

Set up a little station by your sink, and make sure you have the following supplies:

 

HOW TO WASH

  1. First, rinse the brush tip under some warm running water. Be sure to only wash the actual brush bristles and not the handle or neck of brush, as water can break down the glue that holds the bristles and brush together.
  2. Next, place a generous drop of shampoo into the palm of your hand (and a drop of tea tree oil if you choose), and gently twirl the brush tip to create a nice bubbly lather.
  3. Rinse the brush under clean running water until the water runs clear. You might need to do two applications of shampoo for very dirty brushes, and again, rinse the soapy brushes until the water is clear.
  4. Using the cloth, gently dry the brushes.
  5. Reshape the bristles.
  6. Lay the brushes flat to dry on the counter.