Godparent Etiquette

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We were recently given the most amazing honor – to be the godparents and god-family to our best friend’s precious baby girl. Beyond incredible, right? Making it even more special they are the godparents to our two boys, so how cool that we are each other’s god families! J & J are of course the most loving, generous, and phenomenal godparents, and a sterling example of what this special title means. When they asked us to be baby M’s god- family, I of course was brought to tears of joy, as it is the privilege of a lifetime and one that we take very seriously. We look so forward to the many wonderful times ahead with our god-daughter and the bond that our two families will share. The spoiling has already begun too (half the fun of being a godparent is the spoiling!), as I had a ball shopping for her Easter gifts. And so, if you are fortunate enough to be asked to be a godparent, here are my tips on how to shine in this role and foster a relationship with a child that you will both cherish.

Quick Tips

Godparent Etiquette

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After you have been chosen, send the family a note expressing how excited you are for this honor

Attend the baptism or christening, and give the baby a special gift

Always make the child (children) a priority, from a standing Saturday lunch to attending their soccer games

If you’re a plane ride away, stay connected with FaceTime, phone calls, and texts. When you do go to visit, take advantage of the time together!

Send special and thoughtful gifts and cards for holidays, birthdays, etc.

Plan fun excursions where you can spend quality time together, like going to the zoo, an afternoon at the beach, Disneyland, etc.

Set a good example as their role model, and be a mentor offering love, wisdom, encouragement, and guidance

Always offer an ear to listen, and be shoulder to lean on for the child (children) and parents

Ask B: Frenemies

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Dear B,

I have a friend, well I thought she was a friend, and lately she’s feeling more like a frenemy. She’s passive aggressive and puts me down with snide remarks that are masked as harmless jokes, makes the bare minimum amount of effort to maintain our friendship, and every time we are together I feel bad about myself. She also gossips about other people in our social circle, which leads me to believe she is probably gossiping about me too. Given that we do indeed have mutual friends and I don’t want to burn any bridges, what is the best way to handle her and our friendship?

Sincerely,

H


Dear H,

This girl does sounds like a frenemy! Frenemies are an interesting breed, and one to be cautious of – I’ve encountered them before as well so I understand your dilemma. The key takeaway here is that after you spend time with a true friend, you should feel happy and uplifted, not down about yourself, and so I think you are wise to reevaluate the friendship. Since you need to keep the peace with her, I advise two things. First, be realistic about your expectations and accept her for what she is – a frenemy. This way, you won’t be so disappointed when she behaves in not so kind manner. Second, consider limiting your time with her. Instead of always reaching out to her, focus more on fostering friendships with the girls who treat you well and are actually true friends. To keep things copacetic, you of course be your sweet self when you see her, but I think a bit of distance will do you some good. Best of luck my darling!

Holiday Hostess Tips

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We are hosting our family for Thanksgiving this year – our first time! – and I am so excited. Any excuse to use the fine china, right? I love Thanksgiving, from spending time with loved ones to the delicious meal to reflecting on all that we have to be grateful for. I’m setting the table with our wedding china as well as some elegant ribbon trimmed napkins that I found last year, so all that’s left to do is the menu and florals. I’m thinking of creating an arrangement based on our china, and drawing inspiration from the rich color palate of golds reds, greens, and whites. How darling would these be on each plate too? I might have to pick some up! In addition to planning our tablescape and dinner, I’ve also been thinking about how to be a great hostess and make for a special and memorable evening for our guests. And so, here are a few of my holiday hostess tips. Enjoy!

Quick Tips

Holiday Hostess Tips

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Plan ahead! From the menu to the florals to taking an inventory of your serving pieces and dishes, map out all of the details in advance

Create a day-of timeline

Set the table a day or two ahead

Check with guests on dietary restrictions before creating a menu

Not a cook? Enlist the help of a fabulous caterer to handle the meal

Use place cards. This will help guests feel more at ease, and encourage great conversation

Print off menus for each place setting

If someone offers to bring a dish or wine, take them up on it!

Prep the powder room

Light candles and play music to create beautiful ambiance

Have beverages and appetizers ready for your guests when they arrive