Top 10 Etiquette Goals for 2018

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Now that we’re nearly a month in to the new year, I wanted to share my top 10 etiquette goals for 2018. As cliché as it may sound, the new year is a perfect time to hit the re-set button, and really focus on how to be the best version of yourself. While many new year’s resolutions often fall to the wayside by spring break, and by summer are a distant memory, consider making 2018 different. Consider goals that have meaning in your life, as well as ones that you want to work towards. I encourage you to find a quiet place to sit, and with pen and paper in hand, try jotting down a few goals. There is something about writing down your goals – in case you haven’t noticed, I’m a big fan of hand writing everything 🙂 – that makes them feel concrete, and will make you feel accountable.

And so, here are the top 10 etiquette goals for 2018, and I hope these offer you some inspiration!

 

Be Present: Calls, emails, texts, social media – they can all wait. Put your phone away when you’re with family and friends, and enjoy the moment. Be present!

Write Thank You Notes: There might be are a million reasons why you don’t have time to write a thank you note – life is busy! –  however I think we can all find five minutes to show a little gratitude. I promise it will mean the world to the recipient.

Practice Good Table Manners: It’s always a good idea to brush up on table manners, and table settings. That way you’re prepared and confident the next time you dine out with family and friends or entertain.

RSVP ASAP: Try to RSVP the day you receive the invitation. The hostess will really appreciate your quick response, and you can instantly check it off your to-do list. Done and done!

Golden Rule: Treat people the way you want to be treated, be it opening a door for someone when grabbing coffee, or giving a compliment to a friend. Small acts of kindness go a long way!

Trash the Trash Talk: Talking poorly about other people creates negative energy and what does it really accomplish? Nada! Your mama said it and I’ll say it again, if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

Listen and Question: Did you know a great way to get to know someone or strengthen your current relationships is to  listen? Listen, listen listen, because true wisdom is listening more than you talk. (I need to practice this!)

Dress for Success: Treat yourself to a couple new outfits. New clothes will make you feel confident and proud of the way you look, and that confidence will shine through. And chic new clothes don’t have to be expensive, buy within your budget!

Be Punctual: Punctuality is a sign of respect, so aim to be on time. Life happens and if you are running late, out of courtesy, call or text the person you’re meeting to let them know you’ll be tardy.

Give a Gift: Be it a hostess gift, thoughtful birthday gift, or gift for no reason, treat loved ones to something special. It will make their day!

Ask B: Dinner Party Dilemma

Dear B, 

Whenever we host family or friends for dinner and they offer to bring something, I never know if I should take them up on it. On one hand, I’m the hostess so do I need to take care of everything? However on the other hand, they did offer, so is it polite to let them bring dessert, wine, etc.?

Sincerely, 

Ms. Hostess 


Ms. Hostess,

Great question, and one we can all identify with! This is entirely up to you. If a guest offers to bring dessert, however you have a certain menu you’re planning – say a French inspired night – and you’ve looked forward to making a Parisian apple tart for weeks – than kindly thank your guest, and let them know they only need to bring themselves. However if they offer to bring dessert and seem as though they’d love to contribute to the evening, and you would love some extra help, take them up on it! It will be one less thing for you to do (it’s a busy job being a hostess!), and a fabulous way to make your guest feel special and included. Happy hostessing!

Holiday Party Etiquette

We dressed in our holiday finest last night for a good friend’s Christmas party, and oh what fun we had! It was a cold and rainy winters night, so walking into their cozy home all aglow with twinkling lights, festive decorations, and cheerful chatter of party guests warmed us right up. We talked with old friends and met some new friends as well which is always a treat. Great conversation, lots of laughter and delicious food and cocktails capped off what was a truly special evening.

Since I know so many of you are attending holiday parties and dinners this week and through the end of the month, I wanted to share a few tips on holiday party etiquette. I think it’s always helpful to brush up on etiquette, especially this time of year when there are so many social engagements. And so, here are my tips and I wish you all happy holidays!

 

Holiday Party Etiquette

RSVP: While this seems like a no-brainer, so many people forget to RSVP – life is busy! But out of respect for the host, it’s best to always RSVP as soon as you receive the invitation.

Bring a hostess gift: It can be a fabulous bottle of wine or champagne, flowers, yummy chocolates, a candle, the list goes on and on. We brought some of our favorite peppermint bark cookies to the party last night, as we knew both our hosts and their children would love it!

Greeting the host: Be sure to greet your host upon arriving at the party, and also thank your host and say goodbye before you leave. It’s common courtesy, and takes a matter of minutes! While some people believe in “ghosting” or leaving a party without mentioning it to their host, I think if possible, it’s always best to say thank you and bye.

If you have the sniffles: FOMO is real, however if you’re sick stay home! You won’t have fun at a party if you’re under the weather, and the other guests will likely try to keep their distance if you’re coughing and sneezing. Be considerate of your own health and others if you find yourself sick the day of the party. And if you do fall ill, be sure to let the host know ASAP.

Be a social butterfly: Of course it’s great to chat with familiar faces at holiday parties, but try to introduce yourself to some new people as well. You never know who you will meet and what fabulous new friends you’ll make!

Remember your table manners: Whether it’s a sit down dinner or cocktails with a buffet of appetizers, remember the basics – chew with your mouth closed, use the proper utensils, napkin in your lap, etc.

Be a great conversationalist: Ask questions! This is how you get to know someone and create engaging conversation. Try and steer clear of politics, religion, and other topics that can cause tension. Also, come prepared with some current events in mind.

Say thank you: You can send a hand written thank you note, or even just send a quick email or text. Regardless, it’s always nice to follow-up and let your host know how much fun you had at their party.